You are letting them kill parts of you that they don't like.
You are letting them make choices for you that you wouldn't otherwise make.
You are letting them dictate the terms of your happiness.
You are letting them hurt us even when they have no clue who 'we are'
You are letting them get to you, and increasingly worry about what might happen.
I fail to understand how you cannot see that, 'what might happen not happen' is so much worse.
And then you say,
they are 'making you do this'.
When the truth is, 'You are letting them'.
Not. The. Same. Thing.
